Slappin' Asses
A deep, hearty enjoyment of slapping women's asses is written into human DNA. It's not just men who enjoy this slapping. Women will laugh and enjoy seeing a fellow woman get slapped on the ass. And despite their protests, women enjoy being slapped on the ass.
I observed this recently. Ashley and I were visiting her family. At one point Ashley's dad, "Jack," started slapping her mother "Jill" on the ass. These were not gentle slaps. He was smacking her ass HARD. She yelled and told him to stop but he didn't. He just laughed and continued. It was making me laugh too. And I looked to Ashley and she, too, was thoroughly amused. Everyone delighted in the spectacle. Later on, Jill laughed about the episode too. Despite her protests as it happened, later she laughed and admitted it was funny. Jack is a very funny guy. I like him a lot. I'm observing how he interacts with Jill and applying the lessons in how I deal with Ashley.
I've taken to spanking Ashley and slapping her ass on nearly a daily basis. I'll slap her ass in passing, or grab her and pull her over my lap on the couch and spank her. I'll push her onto the bed and then slap her ass, hard. Sometimes she giggles and enjoys it, sometimes she acts mad and tries to get away. But I've made the connection multiple times that after some ass slapping or spanking that she protests against, usually after a relatively short delay she'll come cuddle up to me, come to me for a hug or for a kiss, or come tell me she loves me. It's eerily predictable.
Slappin' Faces
I took things to another level very recently. I called Ashley over to me and slapped her across the face for no reason whatsoever. The other times I've slapped her there was always some sort of conversational context that would make the light backhanded slap funny. This time there was no context and I did it with the palm side of my hand. If I were to describe the other slaps as being funny, this one can only be described as being mean. She got mad. I just laughed at her. Within a couple minutes though it was like nothing happened. We carried on with our evening like the slap hadn't occurred. Then, the next day I was at the library working on a paper. I get a text from her saying that I'm going to be very happy with my lunch. I come home to find that Ashley went to the organic butcher and bought me a big fat steak. She cooked it for me and it was freaking delicious. She was very happy to do this nice thing for me. She looked very happy when she saw how much I appreciated and savored my steak.
That evening she was on the phone with her parents. I took the phone from her and asked Jack if he had spanked Jill yet for the day. He said he hadn't but that when they went to bed he was going to bite her ass. We both laughed. I gave the phone back to Ashley but then decided to go on. I told Ashley to tell her dad that I had slapped her across the face. She did and her parents just laughed.
There are two elements at play here. 1)Women are wired to be submissive to men. 2)Women seek social acceptance. By being physically dominant by slapping Ashley on the face and ass, and doing so openly and framing it as being socially accepted within her family unit, I'm creating a healthy dynamic for our relationship. Ashley is FAR more affectionate towards me these days than she used to be.
Definitely smack her arse, but avoid the face. You could leave bruises or even break an ear drum. Men are better than women at controlling their strength, but the risk of getting it wrong is too great. What if she moved as you went to slap her face?
ReplyDeleteBe sure this woman is reliable. I have spanked my wife for fun and left marks on her bottom a few times. Could be a problem if she had to go to the doctor for some unrelated reason.
When I've slapped girls in the face the force is coming purely from the wrist. Obviously if I was swinging my entire arm I'd be hitting too hard. But it's just a flick of the wrist, so it's really not very hard. And I admit even like this, it's not something that's without risk. Hitting too hard, or hitting the wrong woman could get a guy in big trouble. But, I do want to honestly report on my experiences. And so far slapping women in the face has worked pretty well for me. I think it's important that her father behaves in this way with her mother. To her it's normal.
DeleteI saw my father swat my mother on the bottom once, after she had made some cheeky remark. I sometimes do this to my wife, to tease her, or to get her to move out of the way.
DeleteBut she mostly likes the more formal OTK spankings.
As for slapping faces, this used to be common in movies when dealing with an hysterical woman. CL, at her blog, seems to support this kind of thing, if I remember correctly. But I don't think slapping a woman in the face is a good sexy move.
I could try it, and I suspect it might lead to a good reaction, in the long run. But she would be a bit shocked or annoyed initially, more trouble than it is worth. Besides, we have been married for ages, and it is simply not part of our repertoire.
I can confirm that Game works in my marriage. But a husband needs to provide a bit of beta comfort as well. A slap in the face does not seem optimal.
I agree that if you've been married for ages it might not be ideal to start slapping her in the face out of the blue. She might think you've gone crazy. As for me, I'm not married yet and Ashley and I have only been together for about 4 years. I'm not hesitating to try lots of new things. And I totally agree about needing the beta comfort stuff. I do lots of that. But since that was my default mode before I don't usually write about all the times I cook her dinner or give her massages or send nice text messages. I think most guys who end up reading game blogs are doing way too much of the beta stuff and getting frustrated. So I focus on writing about the kind of things I would never have dreamt of doing before.
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I've read online that some women respond really well to a slap in the face during sex, that it can help them achieve orgasm. I haven't tried this yet. I feel like if I suggest it before hand she'll likely say no, but then again if I brought up any of the things I've been doing she probably would have said no, even though most of it clearly works. And if I try slapping her during sex she'll either get very turned on or very turned off. If I ever try it I'll report back.
Another thing. I wouldn't tell anyone to necessarily become truly violent with their woman, BUT I realized very recently that I've never known a woman to leave a man that was physically abusive. Ask yourself, do you know of any? I know of girls that have gotten slapped around and beat up by their boyfriends or husbands and they all stay with their man, and they stay with him even when friends and family do everything to pressure them to leave. Just yesterday I was in the car with Ashley and we drove by a house, and she told me about how she knew the people that live there. The husband is an alcoholic and he beats his wife. Not little slaps like I advocate, this guy really beats her up bad. I said, "She doesn't leave him?" Ashley said, "Nope." My grandfather was abusive to my grandmother. My mom tells me about how she used to plead with her to leave, but she wouldn't. As much as we may not want to admit it, it really seems like physical violence cements a woman's loyalty. The only time women leave violent men is when their lives are truly at risk. Even then they often don't.
The CL blog is Complementarian Loners. She is rather anti-feminist.
ReplyDeleteSpanking my wife lubricates her strongly. For the full effect, I might give her "corner time", maybe kneeling in a chair. The slight pain and humiliation excite her. She is usually very interested in sex afterwards.
I have never slapped her face during sex.
A piece of advice. There are a few jobs I have never done. One is run a load of washing (well, maybe when she was in hospital, altho' even then my MIL often stepped in). Another - I never mop. Also, when I do cook, my wife still serves the meal. And I have always sat at the head of the table. Symbolism counts. And if you marry this girl, she should change her name. No excuses.
Ok, I've actually read acouple posts on Complementarian Loners. I'll check it out some more.
DeleteI agree with you it's good to have separate tasks. One thing I never do is iron. Ashley always irons my clothes. 95% of the time she is washing them as well. I typically vacuum, although she mops. I enjoy cooking, but she does still cook a majority of the time. I always sit at the head of the table. When we have guests, I assign the seating. And we've talked about the name thing, and I told her when I marry, the girl must take my name. No discussion.
Do you have ideas for other symbolic things I can do to reinforce my dominant role?
Will write more later, but I also never iron. The rest sounds like you have it right.
ReplyDeleteI vacuum. My wife mops.
I will think about other dominant symbolism. Feminists hate this stuff, and mock it, because they know how important it can be.
A few other random things. You can have some specific requirements to be met. For example, I like my tea ready, poured out, black, at the head of the table when I come down to breakfast. I usually get this. Women have an instinct to serve. Work with it.
ReplyDeleteIf my wife wants me to do something, I am generally happy to oblige, but I expect her to always say "please". Never respond to a barked order or a peevish or ill-tempered demand. Make her rephrase it in a polite manner.
I have always banged my wife hard in the bedroom. This is something that simply comes naturally to me. To be frank, I don't worry too much about her pleasure. I think there is an over-emphasis on chasing female pleasure which is counterproductive and a nuisance. If the woman is lubricated, she is ready for sex.
The emphasis on the female orgasm is another feminist shit test, fundamentally.
Have to go again. May write more later. Sorry for the disjointed response.
One of the first things I did after taking the red pill was address how Ashley talked to me. I used to tolerate her bitchy tones and even yelling, but that's finished. She always says please and thank you with me, and when I don't like her tone I address it immediately.
DeleteI think I was probably terrible at sex until very recently. Growing up, my male friends and I used to speculate and try to guess what women liked. No one really had any clue. I used to always be worried about whether or not the girl I was having sex with was enjoying herself or not. I never did anything hard or rough. Lately though I just pound away and do whatever feels good to me. Seems to keep her pretty happy too. I agree 100%, worrying about a woman's pleasure/orgasm during sex is totally counter-productive. I think now most women like just feeling overwhelmed and used by the man's passion. So if you're tentatively doing things and trying to adjust to her feedback, you're definitely not doing it right.
Sometimes if she complains it hurts, I will ease off. I don't lose control. In fact I tend to be a bit too cerebral.
ReplyDeleteI have her trained to say please. Sometimes I say it to her, sometimes not.
She is cheeky a lot, but I mostly let that go.
Women are precious and humility is the only way to true connection. A connection that satisfies like no other, try it out if your man enough, you won't go back.
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ReplyDeleteIf my daughter told me her boyfriend slapped her in the face I would beat the shit out of him. That animated picture you have of the girl getting slapped is sick and so are you. You're a great example of why passive aggressive behavior is so bad. You've spent years being a masochist, absorbing all of this abuse and not standing up for yourself, and now you've become the abuser. Your relationship with your girl is sick and way exceeds the line of healthy dominance. Ashley is a similarly sick person too. You both need help.
ReplyDeleteYour fatherly instincts are certainly understandable and you'd probably be right. Unfortunately, I'd predict that if your daughter were dating a woman-slapping guy, she'd probably hide the "abuse" from you because she would be deeply in love with the guy, and turned on sexually by him. In the event that you found out and did beat the shit out of him, she'd probably turn against you and continue to see him, even going behind your back to do so, or cutting you out of her life in order to stay with him.
DeleteThe animated picture is from some bdsm porn, and it depicts a slap that's a lot harder than anything I've ever done. I don't recommend hitting a woman that hard unless she says she wants you to.
I wouldn't call myself sick or a masochist. I'd call myself a pragmatist. I spent years running "cuddle and compliment" and buy flowers and chocolate game and ultimately it doesn't work that well. It's too bad because I'm naturally inclined to be a nice guy. I'd love to be the nice guy and have that work out well and keep a woman happy. But, as a pragmatist, since it doesn't work I throw it out and adapt.
But just to clarify again, when I've been slapping Ashley and other female friends, it's very light slaps that don't hurt. It's like a parody of violent boyfriend behavior that scores some of the same benefits as the real thing.
Bet you $10 Dave is a exactly the kind of passive aggressive beta he carries on about.
DeleteAgree that this is a fine line to walk. I'm posting tomorrow on some slapping (that went both ways) that went on as a prelude to some hot married sex last week. It's something that has been done playfully in the past, but not to the extent performed in this particular instance. I think the approach you described is right on.
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