Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Strange Reactions

I was watching a movie trailer the other day with Ashley. In the movie trailer there were men cheating on their wives. At one point one of them turns to the other and says, "How can we avoid getting caught?" To which his friend replies, "Well, we could quit cheating on our wives." At which point they both burst out laughing, since neither one of them has any intention to quit cheating.

I look to Ashley (who has talked about how hurt she was when she was cheated on by a past boyfriend) to see her reaction. She was laughing! How silly it would be to expect her to react with disapproval. Women love and cannot resist the incorrigible, fun-loving, sexually driven alpha male.

No woman wants to be cheated on, but she wants that kind of guy. And she expects him to fall so head-over-heals in love that suddenly he'll be content with her and her alone.
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  1. Don't agree with "And she expects him to fall so head-over-heals in love that suddenly he'll be content with her and her alone." ... Even if she says this she doesn't really want this. I know my current is content with me alone and it kills my desire to have sex with him .. he's a sure thing, I don't need to have sex with him anymore. This doesn't stop me fantasising about having sex with other men I know.

    Seen this?
    http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/03/09/relationship-game-a-primer/

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    1. I would say every girl expects and dreams of that happening, but then when it does happen they are less happy than they imagined they would be.

      I'm working on reversing my betatude and instilling at least a tiny bit of dread. You can read previous posts to see my progress.

      What keeps you with your "sure thing?" Have you tried to modify his behavior? Have you cheated? I've done some investigating and I fail to find any evidence of cheating on the part of Ashley, but it does make me nervous when I think of the 2.5 years where I was utterly boring to her (I can say this only in hindsight, at the time I obviously didn't understand anything about what the problem was in our relationship)

      I have seen the post you linked to, I'm trying to apply these lessons.

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    2. How long have you been together? Also, honestly, how would you react if tomorrow you picked up his phone or read his emails and found irrefutable proof that he had slept with another woman?

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    3. We've been together 8 years. If by cheated you mean sex then yes I've cheated (briefly more than a year ago). It wasn't planned but after it happened I analysed why it happened and decided to break it off with current without telling too many hurtful details. But he was so distraught and, well, I told him I'd give it another go and we are currently still together. With regards to him cheating; if I don't know and he keeps it STD safe then I don't really care. If I found proof I'd tell him to be smarter and more discrete, but I'd be totally surprised if he had; don't think he has it in him and maybe subconsciously I can sense this.

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    4. I'm with my current because I have a very good DINK lifestyle, he earns well and so do I and atm can pretty much buy what we want. If I left my finances would take a hit. Truthfully, recently the whole finances is playing less of an important role for me.

      Oh, and regarding modifying his behaviour, I've given a lot of hints over the years and told him numerous times that I much prefer people standing up to me. He's better than he was but I know if I really put the pressure on he'd cave. But essentially, I'm not going to drag him there, I shouldn't *have* to. He's probably perfect husband material but I don't want a husband I want a man.

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