You do not have to restrict yourself to reading books and blogs to learn about game and women. Every time you leave your house you should be watching and being mindful of how men and women are interacting with each other. There are tons of things to watch out for.
Who looks happy and who looks sad? Who is leading who? The men that are with women, how are they holding themselves? When you randomly make eye contact with people, do they look away immediately, hold your gaze a moment and then break? Do they look down afterward or to the side?
Who gets out of the way of who? Do you see people giving directions to one another? Who takes up more space? Who approaches who? Who laughs at whose jokes? Who is leaning in, who is leaning back? Watch everyone's body language. Especially in situations where there is a formal leader. Watch how people fall in line quite naturally. Then see if you can inspire the same kind of behavior in informal situations, when no one is required to follow you, but your alpha presence or lack thereof determines the hierarchy.
I treat every venture out of my apartment as a new chance to observe human and male/female relations. Learn to spot the alphas and the betas. Learn to spot the happily submissive women and the unhappy ones who have had to take the lead for their passive betas.
When you spot a natural alpha, watch how women interact with him. Watch how women interact with betas. Watch groups of men and find out who the AMOG is. Every time you're out and about, always be watching, taking mental notes of behaviors to mimic and behaviors to avoid.
Start paying extra attention to your friends. If you realize one of your male friends is more alpha than you, use him as a role model but keep him away from your girlfriend. If you notice one of your male friends is more beta than you, invite him over to hang out with you anytime you're with women and clearly take the lead and have him follow you. It's been said, Lead the men, and the women will follow.
Start gaming ALL of your female friends. They'll like you better, it will make you more confident, and it's some fast and easy practice that let you learn lots of little things that work and get positive female reactions. When you are gaming you will be surprised to see how eager and happy girls will be to help you out. My female friends are now doing me favors whenever I ask.
Always be learning, and always be seeking to improve yourself.
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